As you come to the mediation table, the following practices can make

the process more productive.

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Before the session take time to

• Write down what you would like to talk about with the other party

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• Think about what each of you could do to solve the problem

 

At the table

• Listen to what the other person has to say. Mediation is about hearing each other.

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• Talk in a way that the other person will be able to hear. When people become defensive, they are not listening. Use “I” statements and avoid blaming, accusing or name-calling.

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• Mediate in GOOD FAITH. This means each party is willing to negotiate, take responsibility for their own actions, create agreements they can live with and share all pertinent information on the issues being discussed.

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• Keep a positive / future-oriented outlook. While it is important to talk about the past to understand and clarify matters, it is the goal of mediation to discuss what the future will look like regarding your situation and relationship.

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